I have been reading a beautiful book called, 'The Wild Edge of Sorrow, Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief'.
Below is a lovely clip of the author talking about the five gates of grief:
To speak of sorrow
works upon it
moves it from its
crouched place barring
the way to and from the soul's hall.
Denise Leverton poem as quoted in "The Wild Edge of Sorrow"